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Hello, Fluffsters!
I’m going through a slightly difficult time right now, and that’s ok. It’s possibly even good for the “monthly topic” of comfort.
Basically, there’s a lot of change coming up in my life, and it’s change I have no control over. The lack of control means that I am not naturally comfortable with what’s going to happen. Will the change make things better? Worse? What?
For background, I’m at a school. Graduation is today, and that means that next year all my graduating friends will not be students where I am. I really like people, and I have no clue whether I’ll see these friends again, so that’s just a bit hard.
So, I’m going to take a step back, and talk about methods of getting comfortable when faced with prospective changes.
The Webmaster’s 3-Step Comfort Plan.
1) Find good music. For me, this is frequently instrumental. It probably has a strong rhythm, and a slightly nostalgic tone quality to it. Nothing too morose, but something that somewhat matches my mood. The music I listen to normally has a faintly hopeful (if sad) tone quality to it. Whatever it is, it’s music that I’m comfortable listening to. That itself starts to help.
2) Think things through. In my case, this involves realizing that it’s not the end of the world, and that there are ways to keep in touch with people. Regardless, at the end the realization is that there’s nothing I can really do about it.
2b) Pray. It’s a nice reminder that God has a plan. This should probably come first on my list, but I often forget. Woops.
3) Wait. In time, God always sorts everything out. It doesn’t work to worry about “what-if”s. The change either will or won’t happen, and it either will or won’t be bad. If it’s bad, I can worry about it then, and then I have a reasonable excuse to be melodramatic! (I think I’m learning too much from Fluffy…)
And if it’s not bad, then that’s wonderful! So really, it’s a win-win situation. Either things get better, which is good, or they get worse, which gives me the opportunity to be justified in “woe-is-me” melodramatics.
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Do you see what I have to put up with? I have never used ‘”woe-is-me” melodramatics’! Even though I’m stuck in this new world, and you’re misinterpreting everything I say! Really, Webmaster, are you trying to turn me into a martyr?
So… If you don’t engage in that sort of melodramatics, what do you call what you just said?
So, anywho. Happy Saturday, Fluffsters! I hope you have a good one. And if any of my graduating friends are reading this, congratulations! This is really exciting, and keep in touch!